Secret life of Cheaters

March 17th, 2008

It seems that with the outing of Eliot Spitzer’s involvement in a prostitution ring and allegations of people cheating on each other over the internet through sites such as “Second Life” and other sites which specialize in helping you to cheat by providing the cheaters with alibis, Salgado Investigations has to ask if we are suffering a internet sex epidemic?

The internet however is a double edged sword for those using it for their illicit hookups. For those of you who read my article, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Cheaters , you will know that there some things you can do. I won’t go into it here, but a good private investigator would be able to advice you.

In the mean time don’t forget to watch Larry King’s

The secret world of cheaters! Spies, lies and suspicion reign when one person strays. Dr. Drew takes you inside the hidden world of illicit hookups! Insights into infidelity for the hour!

Apparently Jimmie N. Mesis, Editor in Chief/Publisher of PI Magazine will be asked to provide insight into this often difficult subject.

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Is my wife or husband having an affair?

March 7th, 2008

That’s the burning question, I get asked every day.

As a private investigator that deals in infidelity issues, I spend a lot of time talking to people on the phone. I’m a bit like an agony uncle.

I’m gonna have to tell you straight. If you have come to me the answer “yes, it’s more than likely.” Deep down inside, you already know this and all you want now is for an independent confirmation of your fears, you just want someone to tell you it’s not all in your own mind. We can offer you this piece of mind.

In most cases, we will come back to you and tell you that your worst case scenario is happening. But remember that the evidence we obtain is usually circumstantial. I mean that unless your partner is “bumping nasties” on the street ie in public then we would see things like holding hands, maybe a kiss or two, dinner, staying in a hotel.

The only time that more damning evidence is found will be when they are doing it at home and you give us permission to place covert cameras inside your house.

I have always thought that it’s an incredibly courageous thing for a person to pick up the phone and call a complete stranger to tell them about the issues in their relationships. But remember that there are few things that I haven’t already heard and you are not alone. As your P.I., I am completely on your side and everything we talk about is 100% confidential.

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Caught Cheating on WebCam (Is it real?)

February 25th, 2008

I’m not sure if this bit of video is real or not but is a great example of how cheaters get caught.

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The surveillance van, the old couple and the police.

February 20th, 2008

There I was parked in a quiet cul-de-sac watching a building across the other side of a T-junction. My colleague is inside a surveillance van parked very close to the buildings front door. I am there purely as backup and to coordinate the job.

The job consisted of following a target to work and I needed to get a few minutes video of them going into the building. Cause it was very foggy, i decided to use the surveillance van close up.

After 10 minutes I decided to move away from the area and went and parked in another street about 2 minutes away. I then get a call from my colleague in the surveillance van whispering, “help, the police are here and they are banging on the van doors”

It was every PI’s worst nightmare and I knew I couldn’t help him. I decided to drive by the van and see what was going on. As I drew level in traffic, I could see a police van and 2 Police Officers walking around the van and peering into the windows. One of the Police officers was talking to an old couple who were pointing at the van and also pointing at the cul-de-sac. I knew then that we must have been seen by them preparing for the surveillance prior to inserting the van in place.

My main concern was to get the van and my colleague out of there with the minimum of fuss and if possible without showing out to the target who as luck would have was at lunch at that present time but who was due to return in minutes.

Many plans were formulated and discarded within seconds as unpracticle and eventually we ended up doing nothing and the police got bored with it and went on to answer a 999 call elsewhere.

My colleague with great presence of mind had curled up into a ball on the floor of the van throughout the event and then managed to take the necessary video when the target returned to the building. He then simply drove out when everything was calm again.

He later told me while we were reviewing the video of the entire incident that the police had been told by the old couple in the cul-de-sac that they had seen 3 men watching the houses with binoculars and then all three had proceeded to get into the back of the van and that they were still in there. The police was overheard telling his controller over the radio that he thought in his opinion that it was a “prelude to a burglary”. Why he thought burglars would hide in a van, i don’t know.

So the lesson here boys and girls of the PI world is always be very aware of the “curtain twitchers”, there’s always one in every street.

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It’s Official! 10YETIS are PR kings

February 12th, 2008

There’s so much going on and about to happen in the near future that I really needed a PR company to advice me on how best to get my message across.

To this end 10YETIS approached me and offered me a deal that could not be refused. They are now on the case and are busy writing stuff and sending it out to all the journalists out there. I will keep you posted on what is published and where.

In the meantime here is a taster just for Valentine’s Day.

The Cheaters Guide To Valentine’s Day

A loved one buying themselves a PAYG phone has been revealed as the No. 1 way to spot that they may be cheating. Love is in the air, but for many couples the black cloud of infidelity could rain on the amorous parade. Private Investigator Jorge Salgado-Reyes is a man who specialises in catching people “at it”, and claims that highly effective cheaters often display the following tell-tale signs.

As Valentine’s Day approaches, many partners across the UK hide their guilty betrayals so well that many lovers just never catch on. A leading UK Private Investigations company is now helping people beat the players at their own game by revealing the top 7 signs of cheating.

The Cheaters Guide to not getting caught…

1. Always use a Pay as You Go phone.
2. Give your lover a fake, same gender name
3. Never say you’re working late
4. Get a close friend to provide regular alibis
5. Try not to treat your partner differently
6. Don’t change your appearance
7. Finally, deny, deny, deny. Everything.

Croydon based Jorge Salgado-Reyes, owner of Private Investigation website www.salgadoinvestigations.com believes that it’s better to have loved and left than to never have found out at all, and encourages partners to never turn a blind eye to these common signs of cheating.

Speaking about the revelations, Jorge said,

“Many cheaters have taken to buying a Pay As You Go phone, seeing as they are becoming increasingly cheaper. Mobile phone records are now the #1 way that cheaters are caught out thanks to itemised billing. Cheaters can easily delete any naughty texts and their call records, covering any potential tracks entirely. If you find that your partner has a mobile phone that you did not know about, chances are they are hiding something from you. Or have turned to drug dealing.”

Suspicious lovers are likely to go through phone contacts whether right or wrong, but are unlikely to pay much attention to somebody of their partners own gender, which is why many effective cheaters store their illicit lovers’ numbers under a fake name of their own sex. Jorge offered the following:

“If a partner has a lot of contact with somebody that they have never mentioned, even if they are apparently of the same sex, it should not be a problem to ask who they are. As long as you are not too aggressive with your questioning, your partner should be happy to ease your worries. If they are not, alarm bells should start ringing.”

Partners often use the almost laughably tired phrase, “I’m working late.” Spouses who often use this should be under suspicion if no extra money is actually being earned. “If however, the money bought home is a bound wad of £50 notes, I would question any extra-professional activities your partner may be engaging in…” Jorge joked.

People who are being unfaithful generally tend to start treating their partners differently, either by overcompensating or turning off affection entirely. According to Jorge, “Any changes in affection, whether positive or negative could be a sign of dishonesty. Unless the cheater is a sociopath, he or she will treat their partner differently, it’s all a question of degree: some people have far more self-awareness and self-control – better actors, basically - and they’re the ones that are best at hiding affairs.”

The biggest mistake cheaters seem to make is to take more care of their appearance where as they previously may not have. When coupled with unusual behaviour, it could be time to talk to your other half.

Complete denial can often convince a partner that it’s “all in his or her mind”. Without concrete evidence and faced with a resolute denial, many partners ignore their head and listen to their heart.

“In my line of work, I’ve learned two things about infidelity. Firstly, I’ve seen the hurt and suffering experienced by the victims. Secondly, I’ve seen how difficult it is to hide an affair.”

And his real advice for cheaters?

“Don’t do it. It’s likely to destroy your relationship, cause lasting damage to your partner, and your kids if you have any, it will create resentment that’ll linger and you’ll be burdened by feelings of guilt … it’s just not worth it.

“Ask yourself “would I do this if I knew I’d be caught”. If the answer is ‘no’, don’t do it.

“Because, if you do cheat, and your partner hires me, you will be caught!”

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